As I watched this video today (a recording from the livestream event from yesterday), I noticed that Sheryl Sandberg’s message is simple. It’s really a few key ideas that she applies to several aspects of her life. She knows it really well and is consistent about it across all forms of media — from her TED Talk, her commencement speeches, any interviews she’s done, etc. The notes below are a high-level summary. Enjoy!
What is holding back your view of success?
- Skills — women need to have more self confidence and not to undermine their abilities. Contribute your success to yourself.
- sit at the table
- pretend you have the self confidence. It will give you the self confidence!
- Views “being CEO” as distasteful
- Leadership Ambition Gap needs to close. Do you have the desire to lead? (Ex. executive seats and government. Less women
- Were you told you were “bossy” when you were younger? (that might have made you feel bad about yourself, but that’s who you are!)
- Parent & Family in the future
- Women do more housework than men. This needs to change. (Find a good, supportive spouse) People will ask you, “should you be working?”
- Do not leave before you leave. Thinking about children before you’re there yet. Keep asking for more — the best way to get balance is to lean in!! You could make your own schedule, gain more money, etc. and you will have a better situation when you need to make that decision.
- Stay in by AIMING HIGH
- Marry a man who supports you! (Ex. does laundry, engaged as a partner and parent)
- Mottos on walls at Facebook
- Fortune favours the bold.
- Done is better than perfect.
- What would you do if you weren’t afraid?
- To reach, to lean. If you do this, you can change the world.
First marriage. | Wait until you know what you want. (Fully formed adult)
I) At 38, she worked for Zuckerberg who was 23. | Mark asked her “what would you do if you weren’t afraid?”
II) Moved to Silicon Valley without a job. Took 10 months to find a job. Hold it together, Ask 3 questions, exit with grace.
What is your advice for GEN Y
– What is your experience and how can you help the organization?
– Ask the company: What is your biggest problem? (In your mind: how can I solve it?)
– Answer: What can you do for the organization?
*Match your skills and experiences to the company’s needs.
Company and ranks:
– It’s a jungle gym, not a ladder.
– If you focus on moving up, you can easily miss out on opportunities.
– Go to a company that offers GROWTH.
– Be willing to move sideways or down to gain new experiences.
Evolution of jobs and how to keep up:
– Lots of change, yet lots of information out there.
– Arm yourself with information
(Ex. I’ve done a lot of research about your work, can I help you? I’ve done a lot of research on your company, (ask a specific question vs. asking about corporate culture.) *Specific questions
Manage leaning in without burning out:
– Careers are marathons, not sprints.
– work-life balance, have it all = these are terms only used for women
Pick your moments to lean in: starting a new job is a great moment to GIVE IT YOUR ALL!
*establish yourself, establish self as a great worker, show how dedicated you are, really contribute, then OVER TIME establish that credibility, carve out the position you want
* be comfortable for asking for what you need at any stage of your career
Carry a notebook!
Be proactive about what you want to accomplish!
When you really know yourself, you will be confident in your speech. (Playing dodgeball – questions thrown at you, and you catch them all)
Re: Facebook. Power to asking questions and community
AUTHENTICITY. TEAMWORK (working together)
This change is one by one.
Levo Lean In Circle
– read materials out there and from peers
– circles will offer materials that are Stanford level
LeanIn.org video on asking for more equal pay.
– women need to position themselves differently when they negotiate
– women have to be communal and use words like “we”…etc.
– women have to work differently and in a smart way. (You may not like this system in the world, but for now)